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誓言本网页即日起“讲文明，树新风”，杜绝一切粗话脏话 2月19日 Thank JJ for preaching the gospel of man~~~The Man Rules We always hear the rules From the female side. Now here are the rules from the male side : These are our rules ! Please note: these are all numbered "1 " ON PURPOSE! 1. Men are NOT mind readers. (FIRST & FOREMOST RULE) 1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down. We need it up, you need it down. You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down. PS from Doug. You always think your smarter than us and we men don't read enough. We do read tech manuals. Try that-it explains how to put it down. 1. Sunday sports, It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be. 1. Crying is blackmail. 1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just say it! 1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question. 1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for. 1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become Null and void after 7 Days. 1. If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us. 1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one. 1. You can either ask us to do something Or tell us how you want it done. Not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself. 1. Whenever possible, Please say whatever you have to say during commercials.. 1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we. 1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not A color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is. 1. If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that. 1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," We will act like nothing's wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle. 1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, Expect an answer you don't want to hear. 1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine....Really . 1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as Football. 1. You have enough clothes. 1. You have too many shoes. 1. I am in shape. Round IS a shape! Thank you for reading this. Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight; But did you know men really don't mind that? It's like camping. 11月3日 十年~~引马骏的一段话： “果然今天msn上大家不约而同换上了“十年”。晚上吃火锅，发现留守新加坡的已经不多了，希望在世界各地的其他人都有好的发展~~~ 有机会再去吃次seoul garden？或者去dover买个咸鱼炒饭~~ 又或者去mph踢球虐小孩~~~ ”
我觉得不管人在哪，日子都是一起过来的。谁现在都少不了奔波的苦衷；只要心里惦念着朋友就好。以后一定能聚齐了去吃seoul garden，一定得把丫line manager 吃出来，呵呵。
祝好！
PS: 我怎么记得小越南们不那么好虐… 6月26日 公生明，廉生威平时根本不上论坛。前一阵听朋友说天涯好，有好多乐子，所以今天上了一下。看到了下面一段帖：
朱鎔基主导国务院时，曾经先后在多个场合向官员推荐西安碑林上刻录的一则明代官箴：“吏不畏吾严，而畏吾廉；民不服吾能，而服吾公；公则民不敢慢，廉则吏不敢欺。公生明，廉生威。”朱鎔基说他从小就会背诵这段箴言，他希望每个官员都能明白这个道理。他曾在中外记者招待会上说：退下来后，老百姓只要给他一个清官的评论，他就很满足了。
我觉得这段明代官箴写得实在是太明白了。中国缺这样的官，更缺筛选这样的官的体制。
国内外对朱的评论是肯定的，我个人也非常喜欢朱总理。但这种喜欢还是蛮表面的，出于对他的气质与口才（可能“口才”更多是敢说而不是能说）。如今朱的儿子朱云来高居中国国际金融公司（China International Capital Corporation）总裁，有红色贵族之嫌。但外界对朱云来的评论为低调朴实；我对此没什么了解，且不作评。 6月18日 Discussion on Man and Woman转发，后续我的个人评论。
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我完全同意对男性的分析：选丈夫是风险投资，须注重long-tem potential cash flow，但初期投资风险大opportunity cost高且有liquidity risk。
我不同意对女性的分析，因为分析的出发点是男的靠女的吃饭，这是不普遍且不适用于我个人的。我认为：1.就女人的相貌风骚, 我同意这是accelerating depreciating asset。如果男人注重这short term value，泡女的就像是 mezzanine finance，i.e. high cost for boosting short term value of balance sheet，所以玩儿完了或是女人变老了就会被甩掉。但结婚注重的是long term，所以第二点（教育，性格，家庭状况）更为重要。对我来讲性格最重要，教育其次，家庭状况只作为前两者的参照。女人是男人事业的重要辅助及后勤支柱。所以ideally 是男人兴衰的long put (hedging position) 即男人受挫时的避风港。而男人应关心的是这option 的implied vol., i.e. woman’s subjective perception on man’s success. 当然，男人需要自己牛逼，才能通过spot market drive up future market，且需要小心expiry date, 因为如果庸碌时间过长decay 会加剧。
4月10日 An English reply to “Torch passed Paris”I happened to come across a writing in my dear lovely (gangster looking) French educated 粱丽妃 君's blog. It is a reflection on the Olympic torch relay in Paris (quoted below). My dear is impelled to speak out despite his political caution, and I also feel the same way despite my desperate lack of time.The Olympic torch relay took place in London last Friday, and then in Paris the next day, and then in San Francisco yesterday. I watched all of the events on BBC and CNN, especially the London relay. A brief account of the event on last Friday: it was snowing, and the relay was accompanied by pro-Tibet protesters all the way, with some entertaining rugby tackles by the police to fend off a few protesters who tried to get into the way of the torch. On one occasion a disguised protester grabbed the torch, though immediately wrestled down by the police. On another occasion, someone sprayed a fire extinguisher at the torch at a near distance.On the following day in Paris, there was the same level of unrest and the route of the relay was shortened towards the end of the event. Yesterday in the US, the event was more peaceful due to a large pro-China local populace and the tactic but embarrassing last minute change of route by the Chinese authority to avoid the protesters.In my opinion, the Olympic game is a trigger event. It is definitely a golden opportunity for the oppressed Tibetans to catch international attention. However, the pro-Tibet protests during the relay events are not genuinely directed to the issues related to Tibet, albeit they are carried out in the name of “free Tibet”. It is a venting of anger and mistrust by the western populace based on their biased understanding of China over decades. It is anti-China rather than pro-Tibet. This allows the western world to lump anything related to the despicable human rights record of China to upholding of the integrity of the Olympic game. What we have seen is just the tip of the iceberg of the entrenched sino-phobia in the western world.As for those dramatic and unlawful acts during the relays, it is less disturbing because it is more of a reflection of the violent nature of the western populace. It is important to note that those who have been arrested for offences of disturbance of public order during the relays are westerners, not Chinese, not Tibetan, but local Caucasians. For them the Olympic events are golden opportunities of self-expression, and any unlawful behaviour would be galvanized with the righteousness of promoting democracy. There may be extreme acts from some Chinese anti-Communism groups. Indeed they were present at the events, but these groups of people are pro-China while anti-Communism, they would not obstruct the Game which is beneficial to China.I agree with my dear that both the Western and the Chinese media are biased. I am sad that the Western media have been and are playing an important part in nurturing sina-phobia in the Western societies. I am equally sad that the Chinese media’s manipulating and obliviating the Chinese people. I agree that the unchallengeable authority of the Chinese government results in abuse of power at different levels of the political system and there is an urging necessity for remedy in order to realize a sustainable political social and economic development. However, it is unrealistic to impose democracy on China, this is because democracy is primarily a political system which has no history in China and hence is incompatible to the Chinese culture. More importantly, it is a fallacy in the western society that anything undesirable to the life of a civilian is contrary democracy. Those “democratical” ideals, e.g. related to liberalism, are not of politics and therefore are not necessarily democratic. Having said that, these western ideals are conducive to the welfare of society and should be introduced to the Chinese political system.I hope the Western people would notice the political reforms that are undergoing in China, e.g. enhancing the representiveness of people in the government at local levels, but it is unrealistic to expect changes overnight. As for the Olympic problems, the Chinese government has well managed the art of not rushing to make decisions and being passive to foreign pressure in emergency situations. Therefore, the protests would alarm and provoke the Chinese government, but is not constructive to the Chinese political reform. As for the short term solution to the Olympic problems, I expect the Chinese government to insist on its hard stance against open dialogue with Dalai. This is due to the historic distress of the 老干部局, a bureau controlling the CCP, to the Tibetan Separists. I think this is unwise, but the government is bound to yield to the Party. So the Western world would get their pound of flesh, the Chinese government would screw up the business of the coming-out party, and the Tibetan people would be doomed to “be dealt with” after the Game.Last but not least, just a word on Dalai Lama. He is not pro-independence because he is shrewd to recognize the pragmatic consequences of provoking China. Yet, he is made scapegoat by the CCP because he is in power of the Tibetan people and hence it is expedient to target the campaign at him to suppress the power he possesses. Yet a recent phenomenon is worth noting: a group of young Tibetans voiced their dissatisfaction to their spiritual leader. This reflects a separation of power, or a dismantlement of power that is spearheaded by the impulsive and daring young generation. Such impetus of reforming the power is not new to man-kind history, such as the successful one in 1919 and the unsuccessful one in 1989 in China. It is often the fore-sign of fundamental political uproar. Indeed, I suspect the prelude of the unrest in Tibet earlier this year was not directed by Dalai but a radical underground organization in Tibet. This is a syndrome of the unhealthy political system in China and testifies on the incompetence of the Chinese government to remedy the situation over years.(the following is from Li Fei’s blog)Torch passed ParisThis entry was intended to be in Chinese; however, as there is a greater pertinence to address the issue to my foreign friends or any foreign readers, I decided to give my primitive English a try. It has been quite sometime that the issue of Tibet occupied the headlines of most major newspapers. I am fortunate and/or unfortunate to live in Paris - one of the most hostile cities - and to witness how news and, more tragically, people’s innocent minds, are being manipulated, by both Western and Chinese media. All along, I have been trying to be deadly quite, not to get involved in any heated discussion. In fact, towards the last two years in Singapore, I have already made up my mind not to discuss too much politics. My past experience of talking about Taiwan issue pissed me off and a few quite close friendships with some Japanese made me think twice whenever I had the urge to discuss Sino-Japan relationship. More importantly, in light of the ever increasing power of China, I as well as any other Chinese with decent education and social status must be responsible for our words. Any threat of genocide or massacre made out of adrenaline rush could send chill down others’ spinal cords. So I kept quite. I laughed at how western media likened Beijing Olympic to that of Berlin. Equally, news from Sina and Sohu made me sad. So I kept quite. And I sincerely prayed that the rest of the ignorant, like me who can do nothing but follow or being manipulated by the media, can keep quite. “If you are not part of the fucking solution, you might be part of the fucking problem”. Obviously, some people chose otherwise. Some, who tried to correct me to pronounce Pekin et Shanghaï, had the courage to equate China to France 50 years ago. Some, who could not even speak English well, let along Chinese, proposed a debate on the French participation in Beijing Olympic. Some, who dared not even, appeared he himself, sent a group of innocent school boys to street in support of Tibet independence. What is even sadder is that: all these fools rushed to street, had the luck to watch a farce staged by the Tibetans. I was very happy to hear from my friends who actually went there that Tibetans failed to incite any fights with the Chinese scholars. It is already a shame that a protest or riot of such nature broke out in China. It is even worse that some losers brought it to foreigners’ eyes. They did not earn sympathy, but only others’ despise of China. One final word, France, Britain and USA took part in Berlin Olympics. And now, they threaten not to go to Beijing.
PS: 丽妃丽妃我爱你，muah muah~~~ hehehe... 2月1日 二十而知天命我妈前几天请个香港大师一起吃饭跳大绳。说席间大师说起了我，坚持认为我有官运应该回国当村长，再漫漫爬仕途之道（我倒，留了半辈子学留回国当村长。。。）。
更崩溃的是，大师还说我八字里满是桃花，可谓"夜夜入洞房，村村都有丈母娘"。（哈哈哈，wtf。。。 我怎么没觉出来啊。。。这大师该去说相声。）
我就此改博克名为“村长”。呵呵。
PS: 把这经典的段子告诉了我女友，结果人家当真了，巨不爽我。我无语了。。。 1月1日 真人真事一胖妞儿其貌不扬，报考北影。面试即兴表演，题目为“看表”。有演候车的，有演等人的。轮到胖妞，一语不发径直走到台中就地撂倒，吭哧吭哧作了数个仰卧起坐。众评委愕然。胖妞儿又挣扎了两三个，起身喘息看表诧异道：哇噻，一分钟过得好快呀！
胖妞儿随即被全票通过录取。
呵呵，中国有才人大大地多啊。写出来贺个岁，让大家乐乐。
对了，顺便推荐一部电影“Balls of Fury”， 恶搞喜剧片，“我家有只河东狮”类型的。引句台词给大家欣赏一下：“Master: a Chinese saying goes 'it is better to die as a tiger rather than to live as a pussy'.”。呵呵呵.... wtf.... 是说“赖活不如好死”么？呵呵....
新年快乐！
12月19日 生日快乐好久不来这儿写东西了。今天是我的生日，所以还是来写点儿什么。
但又不知道写点儿什么。过去这一年已经忙晕了。哦对了，谢谢那几个还记得我生日的朋友。当然，我丝毫不责怪那些不记得我生日的朋友，因为我自己就不能按时地给朋友们送上生日的祝福。我不愿意用那些电子的生日备忘录，觉得假；记不起那么多些生日倒是很自然的。当然，总会有那么几个特别的生日是会铭记在心的。这并不是说我把朋友分了三六九等，但熟识的人多了就总会有远近之别。
近来还成吧，就是时不时犯一些老年性疾病，什么风湿啊之类的，呵呵。上个月踢球的时候一哥们儿突然神情凝重的看着我，来了一句“我发现你长得特像赵本山”。我倒。。。。。。唉，岁月不饶人啊。 7月2日 张榜他妈的爽死我了！居然考得这么好！！苍天开眼啊，呵呵。上学年为找工作花了太多的时间，最后居然这么勃！牛逼死了！！虽然不是
Straight 1st ，但能拿到这样的成绩已经很知足了。
恩，看来我还是老当益壮的！！
2006/7
6月18日 随笔考完试有一个月了。一直都想写点东西，可却懒于提笔。觉得这一年下来我的心态变得苍老了许多，干什么都没了心气儿。前天跟一个久违的同学出去吃饭，我问她我有什么变化，她说我显老了。what the fuck! ... 想来这评价应该是出于我一脸的暮态，并不是因为我容貌的改变吧。 前天外出吃饭去的是一个离伦敦市区老远的一个中国城，因为传说那里能吃到地道的大陆菜。到了以后有些失望，因为那里的餐饮中心不过是个以闽粤菜为主的大牌档，反倒是跟新加坡的hawker centre蛮相像的。最后觅到了一家湘菜馆；点了挺多，剩了不少。虽说没吃出什么"湘"味，但能在异地吃到大陆的家常菜也算是一种情趣吧。席间还有幸搂了几眼中央四的新闻联播和联播后的国足进球集锦。这铿锵顿挫的政治灌输和自我陶醉的国足热忱不经意地触及到了我思乡的那根神经。我这一年来一直以为北京已经没有什么值得我留恋的了。其实我打出国时起就从没经历过与故乡相联系的感伤。这一次突然间有了一丝陌生的向往，陌生地向往着熟悉的地儿，熟悉的事儿，和那些愿意或不愿意念起的熟悉的人们。 嗯，想吃炸酱面了。 2月26日 转载实在是忙。给哥们儿们和女同学们拜个晚年，呵呵。
刚才在网上搜寻林筝的电话，无意间看到了马骏写的一篇文章－－！！！文笔了得啊！ 真是拿情酿出来的文字。哎，新加坡，这辈子也放不下的话题…… 也不多说什么了，祝大家好。 God bless.
转载： 夜深人静的时候... 最近有些上瘾似的迷上了熬夜, 而且是整个颠倒时差的熬夜, 今天早上还破天荒的六点去吃了麦当劳的早点, 使得在白天补觉的时候简直睡得不省人事... 知道熬夜不对, 但是就是难以抗拒夜晚那寂静的美, 加上Clementi的夜晚又十分安静, 整个人可以很自然的忘去一整天的嘈杂, 让大脑暂时远离白天的尘嚣, 静静的, 慢慢的, 呼吸着夜晚独有的令人安逸的空气. 少了一分烦躁, 多了一丝欣慰的感觉, 感谢这宁静的夜晚陪我度过一个个孤单寂静的时刻. 其实以前刚住AC Boarding, 还在Hall 2的时候, 喜欢在窗前刚好可以坐下的位置上抱腿而坐, 看着窗外的Field, 对面的租屋, 或是邻近的马路, 等待许久驶过一辆的的士; 亦或是坐在游泳池或是跑到边的看台上, 躺下, 抬头看着为数不多的星星, 牢骚着最近生活的不如意. 也就是从那时候起, 尤其喜欢了夜晚的安详. 应该只有在这样的环境下, 才能让人卸下一天的防备, 小心翼翼的去整理经历着太多太多, 永远躲藏在内心深处没有安全感的心情. 独自在外如果不能让自己坚强些, 用不擅长的方式武装着自己, 或许熬到现在确实是要称之为一种奇迹. 适者生存的道理, 让只有狠心抛开羁绊的人才能破开荆棘, 忽略琐事的纠缠, 做该做的事, 成就理所当然的成绩. 或许我就是太不坚强, 太容易因小事分心, 所以才让自己在一次又一次的碰壁后慢慢体会到了这些道理. 还在不断的学习, 哪怕受了一身的伤, 只要原本的我还在, 无论世事如何强迫我去改变去适应, 依旧可以在这一刻找到原来的我, 哪怕只是短暂的几个瞬间, 几个片段. 不多一会儿, 又要回到那个真实的世界, 不想睡, 或许更多的是像停留在这一刻的返璞归真. 或许这也算是一种逃避, 逃离这一切几乎窒息的不堪, 在黑夜与白天的夹缝中找到一片栖身之地, 寻求一小份只属于我的平静. 或许少了人分享, 但是原本早就习惯了孤单的我只是重新拾起那快要忘记的感觉. 忘去在各个不经意间所经历的一阵阵心痛, 慢慢放松下来, 让夜晚独有的气息抚平我此时起伏不定的心境, 仿佛没有什么是比这更加美丽的事. 人生的奇妙在于你可以无数次的面对选择, 去拥有你想要拥有的未来. 然后残酷的事实是机会只有一次, 决定之后就必须面对接下来有好有坏的结果, 它会一直伴随着你, 让你去习惯它, 知道你做出又一次的决定, 再一次面临命运的挑战. 举棋不定, 反复纠缠的心是最脆弱最容易受到伤害的, 也最容易消磨人的意志, 直到你崩溃的那天. 所以我们才会学会取舍, 学会接受, 学会面对, 学会为此而付出的代价. 虽然如此依旧希望一切可以那么简单, 生活可以那么简单, 抛开追求名利的欲望, 和心爱的人相互依偎, 感受来自彼此无须言语表示就能传达到的丝丝情意. 当然现实中这样的结果就是活活饿死, 拿爱情当面包, 应了元稹一句词:"贫贱夫妻百事哀!" 对于事业和爱情, 仁者见仁, 在两者间进行权衡, 是人们一辈子都在学习的话题. 但是终究成语里"成家"是在"立业"之前, 虽然大多数的时候我们学到都只是成名后的金钱与爱情及生活三者之间的交易. 其实大多数时候, 只要能够找珍惜身边的所有, 可以多看几眼这个世界, 安心的过完余生已是一种幸福. 想你~~~ 4:15, Beatles的"Yesterday"伴我入睡~~~
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